tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post5108824966387382121..comments2024-03-05T09:15:05.886-05:00Comments on Robin Kramer Writes: Why I Never Criticize My AppearanceRobin Kramerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09902099859770996417noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-68742890865358416702012-07-30T11:38:25.109-04:002012-07-30T11:38:25.109-04:00 Your daughter is wise. Sweet IS cute! Your daughter is wise. Sweet IS cute!Robin Kramer @ Pink Dryer Linthttp://pinkdryerlint.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-58292737437407417262012-07-28T17:49:51.013-04:002012-07-28T17:49:51.013-04:00BTW... tears to my eyes, this totally went right t...BTW... tears to my eyes, this totally went right to the heart of what i have always tried to teach my children... amazingly well put.Reverend Gaeanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-46925613366017174292012-07-28T17:47:58.925-04:002012-07-28T17:47:58.925-04:00My youngest daughter always says that cuteness is ...My youngest daughter always says that cuteness is her super power... it is always followed with the most adorable "because SWEET is always cute!"Reverend Gaeanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-17238955990718178372012-07-24T20:25:31.218-04:002012-07-24T20:25:31.218-04:00Sounds like a great book. Thanks for the recommen...Sounds like a great book. Thanks for the recommendation, Siobhan!Robin Kramer @ Pink Dryer Linthttp://pinkdryerlint.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-74037300680179322882012-07-24T16:20:52.075-04:002012-07-24T16:20:52.075-04:00Totally with you 100%. My weak point has been talk...Totally with you 100%. My weak point has been talking too much about clothes or showing concern about 'what to wear' which I now regret. There's a brilliant book called Where Has My Little Girl Gone? by Tanith Carey which looks at all these issues and offers really practical advice on how to fight against the inevitable tide of peer pressure to look perfect etc. Her basic tenet is that we urgently need to be working on our girls' self esteem in the tween years (8-12) which she explains so well. Go check it out on Amazon. siobhannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-8697533596668309222012-07-22T04:27:07.853-04:002012-07-22T04:27:07.853-04:00Such an important message for all moms. Thank you ...Such an important message for all moms. Thank you for posting it.Chris Lipsticknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-50462369381977728792012-07-21T23:40:10.956-04:002012-07-21T23:40:10.956-04:00Love this post. Really, as a mother of a 7-year-ol...Love this post. Really, as a mother of a 7-year-old girl I need to be more diligent about what comes out of my mouth. This is great inspiration to do just that.Ameenahttp://fancythatfancythis.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-80436923042640474762012-05-02T21:34:14.328-04:002012-05-02T21:34:14.328-04:00 My pleasure, Becky. My pleasure, Becky. Pink Dryer Linthttp://pinkdryerlint.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-91172765405103243202012-04-25T10:13:47.590-04:002012-04-25T10:13:47.590-04:00This continues to be a HUGE struggle for me....I c...This continues to be a HUGE struggle for me....I can't ever seem to keep my weight where I feel my best, and it bothers me greatly. BUT, I know I am beautiful to my kids and my husband, and by me tearing myself to shreds, that causes confusion, pain, and more distorted thinking for them, so I praise myself in spite of myself. Thank you for sharing this post.Becky Anthonynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-39526603781065977042012-04-06T19:59:35.583-04:002012-04-06T19:59:35.583-04:00Thank you so much for linking to this on my blog. ...Thank you so much for linking to this on my blog. I love it so much and it is very convicting to me.The Diaper Diariesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-41281710668755645702011-08-22T21:45:58.944-04:002011-08-22T21:45:58.944-04:00Robin, thank you for visiting my place and letting...Robin, thank you for visiting my place and letting me know about your post. I have made the same pledge. I have vowed to fight in her life the influence of a society that tries to tell her what is beautiful and what is not. It's an uphill battle but one worth fighting and it starts with me.Gabyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03893654710835125604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-70957504635972192011-07-01T12:22:24.431-04:002011-07-01T12:22:24.431-04:00Thanks so much for the comments, everyone. Dawn, ...Thanks so much for the comments, everyone. Dawn, no, I've never requested that people don't compliment my girls or tell them they're cute. Honestly, I don't think this type of praise will hurt kids. <br /><br />Plus, it's like giving/receiving gifts -- let the giver (the compliment giver, that is) choose how to lavish love, even if you would do so in a slightly different fashion.<br /><br />I think the key is balance. As long as we don't harp solely on looks, I think our children will learn that there are many other attributes more important than external beauty.<br /><br />Just my thoughts!Robin Kramerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09902099859770996417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-59393268176714958962011-07-01T04:49:30.734-04:002011-07-01T04:49:30.734-04:00This is a great post. I have a question: have you ...This is a great post. I have a question: have you ever asked family to not call your daughters cute or pretty the first time they see them, or excessively? My mother-in-law especially calls my boys cute and too cute VERY often when she sees them, which is quite a bit since we live close. I'm not sure if I should ask her to try to tone it down or not...just wondering if anyone has had that experience.Dawnhttp://www.dawnwhispersandshouts.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-18008783222551069532011-06-30T09:25:31.362-04:002011-06-30T09:25:31.362-04:00This is a beautiful post. I commend you for teachi...This is a beautiful post. I commend you for teaching that being attractive is an inside job. If you feel gorgeous, you will be gorgeous. It is so important to convey that self-love is a choice. <br /> <br />Even having boys, I think they benefit from a mom with a real body viewing herself as looking "just fine, thank you."Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16918315000472608093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-35309864281899169522011-06-29T22:37:11.135-04:002011-06-29T22:37:11.135-04:00I completely agree! I made that pledge before as s...I completely agree! I made that pledge before as soon as my daughter was born. <br /><br />Our children watch and hear everything we say and do. They make connections about their world and their place in it based on much of what they observe and process through their parents. <br /><br />Thank you for sharing such a beautiful posting.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09231196028453953524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-35946175496779998982011-06-29T19:41:43.499-04:002011-06-29T19:41:43.499-04:00Good job on this post. Too much empahsis is on ou...Good job on this post. Too much empahsis is on outward appearance. Work on the inside and it will shine through.Abbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17764322643677104765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-32648089852266179652011-06-29T19:24:42.413-04:002011-06-29T19:24:42.413-04:00Bravo! I agree wholeheartedly. We praise Dudette f...Bravo! I agree wholeheartedly. We praise Dudette for her humor, insight, compassion and politeness, showing her that inner beauty is so much more important than outer (especially since so many people comment on her outer beauty). <br /><br />I have to admit though, I thought you were going to say that you never criticize your appearance in front of them because any comment you make will be repeated in public (not that I know that from firsthand experience or anything ::sigh::).Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12752458901614211514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-82168497428229279682011-06-29T13:44:53.060-04:002011-06-29T13:44:53.060-04:00This is a truly lovely post. Amen.This is a truly lovely post. Amen.Sarah | Coffee and Cabernethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15850591029197618492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-41769295802291445802011-06-29T12:04:43.234-04:002011-06-29T12:04:43.234-04:00Well written my dearest Robin! How God has truely ...Well written my dearest Robin! How God has truely made you an inspiration for us insecure ladies! This is EXACTLY how I want to impact my daughters/sisters of the lord.Lauren Medinanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-64477762642390424992011-06-29T11:50:52.273-04:002011-06-29T11:50:52.273-04:00Having had psoriasis myself, I definitely have a s...Having had psoriasis myself, I definitely have a scarred self-image. Now with 3 daughters of my own, I constantly struggle with this as well - not wanting to impart my insecurities to them. Thanks for sharing - you have a wonderful attitude about it and have made a very admirable commitment!Lisa W.http://www.thegoldenspoons.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3356107853796107267.post-82136220752021581612011-06-29T11:47:50.368-04:002011-06-29T11:47:50.368-04:00I love this post! It is so true! There is so much ...I love this post! It is so true! There is so much negativity out there in the world when it comes to appearance and self-worth. It is definitely up to us, as mothers, to teach them what really self worth is all about.Ashley S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03757648303519095851noreply@blogger.com